Premarital Counseling

A Wise Investment Before the Wedding

So much to do before the wedding…who has the time (or money) for counseling?
Preparing for the wedding can be a consuming and stressful process that often overshadows the work of preparing for the actual marriage. Yet, while the wedding lasts a few hours or days, the marriage will hopefully last a lifetime.
With a national divorce rate of close to 50%, what differentiates the couples who succeed in marriage from those who fail? Recent research shows that there are specific and teachable relationship skills that help couples to build strong marriages. These skills include communication, planning ahead for tough issues, clarifying goals and expectations, and learning how to fight fair and make-up. Premarital counseling can prepare couples for greater marital satisfaction and intimacy.

For more information or to set up an appointment, please call The Relating Well Center, LLC at 215-760-3519 or send an email.

What happens in premarital counseling? You and your partner will attend a private session with a therapist who will help you to identify your strengths and challenges as a couple. She will also offer an inventory to deepen your self-assessment. Between sessions you will each do the assessment online and the therapist will meet with you for approximately five more sessions to review your results and guide you through exercises meant to teach skills and highlight areas that may need attention.

How many times do we need to go? The basic program is 5 sessions in total, and some couples choose to attend further sessions to address issues that arise or are more complex.

Will you tell us not to get married? Premarital counseling helps partners to look at their own relationship strengths and challenges. The therapist will not tell you what to do, other than suggesting ways to address challenges and points to consider. Rare exceptions may occur where there is a serious safety-related concern.

When is the best time to do it? Before becoming formally engaged is a great time for premarital, or pre engagement, counseling because the stakes are lower. Friends and family have not yet reacted, wedding deposits have not been made, and the pressure to move forward is less. During engagement is still a good time, and often the process of planning a wedding surfaces great issues to practice skills on such as handling family members and financial decisions. Even after the wedding, the early days of marriage are a great time to work on strengthening skills through an educational marriage program.

How much does it cost? Less than most wedding expenses and less than a divorce. (Much less!) Please contact The Relating Well Center for current pricing. Some couples choose to register for a marriage strengthening class or retreat, a great gift idea!